Are You My Accountability Partner

There is a gym in my neighborhood. For a while it changed management companies every year or so. This was good for me, as I would go in every time it changed hands, take a new ‘tour’ and get a handful of free passes. I had no interest in using the gym to workout, but free access to the hot tub, now that was my jam.

I like to exercise but have no interest in a gym. I’ve tried to force myself to use it, guilt myself into using it, hired a trainer to motivate me, connected with a workout buddy – nothing works. I used to feel bad about it, hurling some good ol’ fashion negative self talk at myself, but finally had to accept that it just wasn’t going to happen. It wasn’t the fault of my friends not encouraging me, or because the trainer was bad at his job, or because my gym buddy wasn’t committed enough. I just didn’t want to do it. The desire wasn’t there.

“I needed someone who was walking the journey with me. We got together for monthly meetings that end with homework to complete before the next meeting. Both our businesses are better because we walked shoulder to shoulder together. ”

— TWANNA A. HINES, FUNKY BROWN CHICK INC.

Let’s face it, being an entrepreneur is hard work, and it’s forking lonely. Not everyone understands the choices that go into it; the determination, the creativity, and the isolation. Even those that love you most, can look at you dumbfounded as to why you would want to pursue that life. Having a support system that understands what you are going through is essential to helping you achieve your goals, stay inspired, and even blow off some steam along the way. That system can include service providers to cover expertise that is not your own, a virtual assistant for other tasks, maybe a business coach. It can also be helpful to have an accountability parter as a part of your support system as well.

Finding a good accountability partner requires two things:

  1. your desire to do the thing that you are seeking accountability for

  2. another person who wants to do their thing with the same level of commitment as you want to do yours.

Your accountability partners job is not to push you to do something you don’t actually want to do. That person won’t solve your motivation problems if your problem is, at it’s core, that you don’t want to do it.

A good accountability partner can help by providing a less isolated work environment and help check in with you on the things you need a little support on. This can make the entrepreneurship journey more rewarding, and keep you moving forward. Three things to think about when partnering up with someone for accountability:

  1. Think ahead of time what kind of support you need. Do you need someone to check in with you regularly on deadlines, be a positive influence on your goals, commit to working at the same time at your co-working space or coffee shop, or maybe even meet you at the gym to work out 🙂

  2. Communicate clearly and specifically with each other the kind of support you need, and what kind of support you can offer. Make sure it’s a good match.

  3. An accountability partnership is reciprocal, it’s a partnership, make sure you are both equally committed to providing support.

Ultimately, don’t commit to something you don’t want to do, or to a bad match in an accountability partner. Keep looking if it isn’t right. Good luck and let me know how it goes!

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